Most books written on attraction are created by "Ph Ds" - meaning big brains, but little success in their own in getting a high quality woman into their lives.
Besides, most all of them only talk about how to handle a relationship after you've already found a woman - NOT how to get a girlfriend and get her hot for you - and ONLY you.
Every guy in the group was envious of me, and my friend Jeff even said something like "Yeah, I decided to pass on her and let you have a shot..." Yeah, right.
If you're not comfortable putting your picture up online, avoid overselling your appearance with dubious claims like "Sharon Stone look-alike." I started my magazine personal with: "Curvy, almond-eyed writer, fit (good shoulders)...." My husband says he was attracted to the soft sell of the description and the quirky confidence of the assertion.
Instead of saying you're funny or well educated or caring, demonstrate that.
Twelve years ago, I took a chance and wrote a personal ad.
My finished product reflected my attitude at the time—a combination of "you have to play to win" and "hey, why not?
I am a recovering nice guy who realized that modern culture has it backwards.
Recognition means nothing - but getting REAL success with women does... Many years ago I accidentally stumbled into the world of "pickup artists" and dating tips for men.
Now the reality is that if I had to learn this stuff all over again, I wouldn't do it this way again.
Honestly, I can see why most guys avoid trying to "figure it all out." It's not intuitive.
Here's what I've learned about writing a good ad: 1.
Props that make you feel soulful, frisky, and fascinating help you make those claims for yourself in your ad. It might sound obvious, but be sure to post a terrific photo of yourself. More to the point: I wanted to attract a man who appreciated subtlety.
But I realized that I also had a knack for teaching, and I can explain these concepts to any guy out there quickly and easily.